Just say, you live here now.” Sharing the cost of a date is normal If elsewhere men pay on dates, this is not always the case in Switzerland.
Alice*, a French expat in Zurich, reveals that although her Swiss boyfriend paid on their first date, he expected costs to be split 50/50 after that.
“I mainly get approached by Spanish guys,” she admits, adding that she thinks Swiss men must be too arrogant or too scared to speak to women.
But as Swiss Marc* reveals, “we behave the way we do because of the numerous rejections we have received from Swiss women.” Tijmens’ top tip?
Women should make themselves more approachable by, for example, smiling and saying ‘hello’. It doesn’t pay off to label yourself an ‘expat’ Think being an expat will make you sound exotic? There are around two million expats in Switzerland from all over the world, but the Swiss are on their home turf: they have friendships they established as children, making it hard for foreigners to build relationships with them.
“This gives the man the green light to speak to you. Exacerbating the problem is the temporal nature of expats.
“If love doesn’t happen instantly, we are disappointed and are out of there,” the dating expert says, emphasizing that investing time pays dividends.
She may be right: Swiss government figures in 2015 revealed that 35 percent of marriages were between a Swiss and a foreigner.
She says: “Labelling yourself as an expat when you want to date locals is not always helpful.But this ‘no effort’ mentality is a mistake when it comes to dating the Swiss.Speaking to The Local, Trea Tijmens, owner of dating, matchmaking and date coaching service Success Match, says it takes effort to meet the Swiss – and even longer to engage in a trusting relationship.As consumers have more and more ways to get information, finding your target audience is harder than ever.But amidst all the turmoil, there's one thing that isn't hard to find: How Stuff Works' sophisticated users.