I’m not going to point a finger in one direction -- that’s a discussion for another time -- but my hunch is that the culprit is a clusterf*ck of many things.Among those are society’s pressure on women to still marry young, slut shaming, double standards, baggage-ridden player guys, selfish exes, baggage-ridden insecure girls, your mom and dad, that dude from 8th grade and our sometimes unattainable beauty standards for women.They are a lot of fun to be with and make you feel wanted and fill what’s missing in your life, so, naturally, you want to believe that it’s real and that their original desire to stay “single” has changed. For whatever reason they don’t want to have a real relationship with someone, for whatever reason, could be they’re scared, could be they were burnt, could be because of some of their baggage, for whatever reason they don’t want to commit, even to you. I know that hurts your pride but you have to be realistic. Just when I thought I was making progress, the boy just wanted to have fun and although he loved being around me and my company, he wanted to be free.That was hard for me to digest because I am the kind of person who isn’t high maintenance nor am I needy.He says he doesn’t want a relationship, he’s just having fun, doesn’t want to commit … So is there anything wrong with just wanting to have fun and enjoy life? But, there is something wrong with leading someone else on.
They need to keep things casual and not be temporarily exclusive with them.But they’re a lot of fun to be around and send you all the right signals. the thing is, it’s hard to tell the difference between a relationship tease and the real deal … So I know what you’re thinking, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then logically it must be a duck! In traditional situations, two people meet, they date, then things progress to something more, whatever it is the couple wants. As mentioned earlier, they love the experience of being with someone but don’t want the responsibility and don’t want to miss out on a potentially great experience elsewhere.The thing is, relationship teases want all the good parts of a relationship, the benefits, but none of the responsibility. So we’ve defined what a relationship tease is, but, how do you recognize one? but they will do all the right things without “sealing the deal” and making things official. This, my friends, is where you distinguish the men from the boys, and, well, boys just want to have fun.I also challenge you to learn from my mistake and be aware of blurred lines when dating. I was recently told by a guy that I approach dating the same way dudes do.